Saturday, March 28, 2015

Raising Kids to Thrive

Obviously raising children isn't easy. And from time to time, we, as parents, need advice. Not the unsolicited kind, which is the worst, but actual solid parenting advice for those moments when we're freaking out and thinking how many therapy sessions our kids will need in the future.

The internet is a good place to start, along with family and friends. But, sometimes there is just too much information out there. It's not always from reliable sources and 10 different websites can tell you how to approach the same issue 10 different ways-- talk about overwhelming! 

When that happens, it's always nice to get back to basics and hit the books. When I was pregnant I bought a bunch of parenting books and they have been so helpful. The American Academy of Pediatrics was kind enough to send me the brand new book by Dr. Kenneth R. Ginsburg called Raising Kids to Thrive



It's a great, all around parenting book. The main point  Dr. Ginsburg highlights is balance in parenting. Love your children unconditionally, but still have expectations. Don't only show love when expectations are met. I know that might seem obvious, but the more I thought about it, the more I realized how easy unconditional love could become conditional love to a child. A nice little reminder. 

The book talks a lot about helicopter parents and how you shouldn't hover over your child's every move, but it's okay to watch them closely. This is something I know I struggle with, and the book has been very helpful in helping me understand why I shouldn't hover so much. Now it's up to me to put what I've learned to practice. 

Another section of the book I found very helpful was how to foster meaningful conversations and success with our children. Dr. Ginsburg lays out a few different suggestions to start conversations that inspire growth and not perfection, something I've always been an advocate of. I dog-eared that page for reference in the future.

One last topic I want to feature is the importance of being a "tell-able" parent. A parent who is approachable and is able to have an honest relationship with their children. Dr. Ginsburg says that parents who listen well will have children who talk. That one little line in the book had such an impact on me, and I know will stick with me for years. Again, it's so simple, but so important. I often wonder how my relationship with Harry will be in the future, and I think if I continue to heed the advice in the book, we'll be just fine :).

Overall, I really enjoyed reading Raising Kids to Thrive. I think it offers sound parenting advice, and reiterates a lot of things you might already do as a parent- but I found it comforting to know that a "parenting expert" and I are on the same wave length.

The book's introduction invites parents of all age groups to read the book, and claim everyone can benefit from it. I agree, but I do feel most of the advice is more geared towards parenting kids five or six and up. At the end of every chapter there's a section called "More Thoughts From Teens," where various teenagers give their take on the topic. Those were some of my favorite parts of the book- as they're the ones who are directly affected by the book's parenting guidelines. 


Disclosure: This post is sponsored on behalf of rolemommy.com. All opinions are 100% my own.

Thursday, March 19, 2015

March Ipsy Bag

I got my Ipsy bag the other day, and it did not disappoint!


Here's what came in the bag, which is super adorable this month!

Marsk Mineral Eyeshadow in Lucky Penny: $22.50
Chella Highlighter Crayon in Ivory Lace: $18
NYX Butter Lipstick in Little Susie: $7
Dr. Brandt Pores No More Anti-Aging Mattifying Lotion:  $8.75 (approx.)
Healthy Sexy Hair Soy Renewal Creme Oil: $5 (approx.)

A $61 value, all for just $10. Can't beat that! And three of the items are full-sized, which I always appreciate. I was initially a little bummed to be getting another eyeshadow (this would be my third, in four months), but the Lucky Penny color is absolutely gorgeous! It turned out to be one of my favorite items in the bag.

The thing that I'm least excited about is the Soy Renewal Creme Oil. Not that I don't think it will be a nice product, but it's a blow dry cream, and I just hardly ever blow dry my hair. I got a blow dry cream in my first Ipsy bag back in December, and it's still more than half full. So, I won't be using this one for a while.

I've said this every month, but I've had so much fun with Ipsy! Getting five new products every month for the price is awesome. And I've found some things I've really loved. I loved the Eva NYC volume spray from last month I ordered a full size. (use code EVANYC65 to get 65% off your order- thru 3/31/15)

Monday, March 16, 2015

First Bike Ride

Okay, so before I get to what this post is really about, I wanted to write about what happened over the weekend first, so I don't forget to include it in next month's update, because it's just too cute.

So, ever since Harry discovered Toy Story, he's been wanting to go to someone's house and look for the characters in the bushes. I think the characters are in the bushes during one of the movies, so I'm guessing that's where he got the idea. Anyways, he was talking about this for weeks. So, we found a little Buzz and Woody doll and on Saturday Harry and I went over to my dad's house. I quickly hid the toys in the front bushes and had Harry come and look for them.

OMG, the face when he first laid eyes on Buzz was priceless! I don't think he really believed they'd be there. Harry loved the toys of course, and spent most of the afternoon running around with Buzz yelling, "To Infinity, and Beyond!"

So, anyways, back to what this post was supposed to be about... bike riding! As you might recall, Santa brought Harry a bike for Christmas. He finally got to test it out for the first time last week. The weather has been so nice, so even though there's still a lot of snow on the ground in the pictures, it was like 50 degrees.

And yes, we had him ride his bike in the street. The street literally has one house on it, and the lady who lives there came out and watched us for a bit. It's really the perfect spot to learn how to ride!



Harry's never pedaled anything before, so it's going to take some time for him to totally get it. I think he understands the concept, but actually doing it will take a bit more practice.



After a while Harry got frustrated with himself and just wanted to steer the bike (while being pushed), or push it around.


All in all, I think it was a good first ride. Plus, it was just wonderful to get out and enjoy the nice weather. I am crossing my fingers it's here to stay! While this winter wasn't as bad as last year, it was just so cold for so long. I don't think we had a day above freezing for three months straight!



Isn't his helmet adorable? It's probably Harry's favorite thing about riding a bike.

Thursday, March 12, 2015

3.4

Or, 40 whole months!

3/7/15
- We are in full-on "threenager" mode around here! There have been lots of trying moments this past month. Harry definitely has a mind of his own, very strong opinions, and doesn't know the meaning of compromise. Fun!

- Harry loves music! And dancing. His current favorite song is Mark Ronson and Bruno Mars' "Uptown Funk," which he calls "Uptown Funky Road," haha! He knows a lot of the words and beats and has very specific dance moves for the song. He also loves Taylor Swift's "Shake It Off" and Katy Perry's "Roar."

- I haven't updated on potty training in a while... because there's really been nothing to update on. He really has no interest in it! He goes pee in the potty every night before bed, but trying to get him to go any other time is like pulling teeth. Although this past weekend we actually got him to wear underwear, which was a win (he hadn't been willing to wear any in over a month), and we made it to the potty in time once or twice.

I'm pretty sure I was a late potty trainer, too, so I shouldn't be too surprised he's not there yet. But I want to sign him up for a summer camp and he has to be potty trained for that. And of course for preschool next year. So we really need to start getting serious about it around here.

- We finally rented Toy Story from the library. I knew he'd love it, but I didn't know how much! OMG, Harry is obsessed with it! It was the first movie he's watched all the way through without getting distracted (He loves Frozen but usually gets up to play with toys at some point). We rented all 3 movies in the last month and he loved each one more than the last. He's already talking about how he wants to be Buzz Lightyear for Halloween. His favorite part is in TS3 when Jessie and Buzz do their dance, he talks about it all the time. His new found fondness for TS will make filling his Easter basket easy this year :)

- We've had some trouble with drop off at school. At the beginning of February he started crying when I tried to leave at school. Totally out of the blue, before that he would willingly say goodbye and join his friends in class. Knock on wood, the last two classes have been better. He's asked me to come in with him to help take his coat off and one of his teaches holds him up to the window and we wave goodbye as I go back to the car.

- A little kid told him at the library that only girls wear nail polish. That made me so mad! Harry likes to wear it sometimes and while we are far from the perfect parents, I think we've done a good job not shoving gender stereotypes down Harry's throat. I've never once said "that's for boys," or "that's for girls." So, it really broke my heart that someone told Harry he shouldn't wear nail polish because he's a boy :(. Fortunately, I don't think it sunk in quite yet.

- He does air high-fives like Jim and Pam from The Office. Came up with it all on his own- I haven't watched the show for almost a year (shocker, I know). So freaking cute!

- I had a doctor's appointment for some issues earlier this month. Harry was so concerned for me! Before I left he started calling himself Dr. Harry and got his little wooden tool set out to try and fix me. He took his little screws and hammer and told me I didn't need go see the other doctor because he was making me better. It was so precious, and one of my all-time favorite memories :)

- Harry bit the inside of his lip and it was really bothering him for a few days. He wouldn't even let us brush that side of his mouth it hurt him too much. He kept insisting on a Band-aid to make it better. We asked where he wanted it, and told him it couldn't go inside his mouth. He just pointed to the corner of his mouth, so I put one right where he wanted. Voila! Somehow, he said it made everything feel better ;)


(From my Insgatram)

Wednesday, March 11, 2015

Rocksbox- Get a Free Month!

You guys might remember that I partnered with Rocksbox last year. I had so much fun working with the company, so when they asked if I'd like to be one of their "It Girls," I had to say yes!

The benefit of me being an It Girl? You can get a FREE month of Rocksbox!

To claim your free month, just go to the site, and use code "accidentalwallflowerxoxo" at checkout.

Not quite sure what Rocksbox is? Well, think of it as Netflix for jewelry! Once you subscribe, you'll be sent a box of three fabulous, designer pieces of jewelry. You'll fill out a questionnaire on the site so your stylists know what kinds of jewelry you like and don't like. For instance, I have mine set to only receive necklaces and bracelets and I prefer gold jewelry to silver. Wear your jewelry as long as you'd like, and when you're tired of it, send it back, and you'll be sent a new Rocksbox with three new pieces to wear!

Here's my latest Rocksbox set.


Beautiful! I just sent the box back today and can't wait to see what goodies I get next :)

If you are interested in the free month, make sure you sign up soon, the code is only good through April 10, 2015. If you happen upon this post after that date, the code will still work for 50% off your first month of Rocksbox.

Again, the code for a free month is: accidentalwallflowerxoxo

I hope you have as much fun as I have with Rocksbox!

Disclaimer: Rocksbox provided me with a complimentary subscription. All opinions are 100% my own.

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